Education Lady

Dear Education Lady,

I feel like I am failing my kids. They talk back to me and don’t listen to a thing I say. Sometimes I find myself walking away because the desire to smack one of them is strong but I’ve never hit my children and as they are now pre-teen and teens, I’m not sure that’s an answer. What do I do?

Dear Disrespected & Dishonored,

It’s time to wake up and face the reality of what a non-spanking hand has dealt out.

First, it’s never too late to ask for forgiveness and begin again with your children.

One of the wisest women I know, Dani Johnson, says it’s up to the parent to humble herself or himself in front of the child and say “I’m sorry” and add in whatever it is you feel you have done to fail them.

You are not a failure. You have not failed your children in this moment if you simply take action and start doing something about it now.

Walking away when anger rises is a good thing, however, walking away and never addressing the issues at hand is setting your kids up for failure big time.

You are entrusted with protecting them, loving them, educating and grooming them up right. If you really want to get on track with your kids.

• If you are serious about having them honor you, respect you and listen to what you said...
• If you are serious about wanting to learn how to communicate effectively with your children…

Then I need you to do one thing right now, today, and then post below when it’s done. This goes for anyone reading who feels like they failed their child or have felt disrespected and dishonored by their child or spouse.

I need you to go online and order Grooming The Next Generation right this moment.

It’s not my product, it has nothing to do with me other than I strongly recommend it to any parent who’s struggling with raising up their child.

I so strongly recommend it that I hold free classes in my local area every other week and have taken it to local schools, churches and youth groups. I’m on a mission here, Mom.

It’s time to stop being disrespected and dishonored by your children. No matter what it takes, no matter what the cost.

You child’s future stands in the balance here so don’t do what 98% of the population does and not take the advice asked for.

Don’t do what so many have done by saying, “I’ll get to that later” or “I don’t need that.”

You asked for help and with a few clicks of your mouse, you can have it by going online (which you already are if you’re reading my words) and order your copy of Grooming the Next Generation.

I don’t care if it means you eat tuna fish for the next three days, three weeks or three months.

It’s time you ask yourself what’s more important, you’re daily latte habit or your children’s future.

Raising up kids who bad mouth you is setting them up for failure in life, in relationships, in the marketplace and you know it.

So, lets get real here.

There are communication skills you need to learn and you will get them in Grooming the Next Generation, I promise you.

Order this program today – the cost is minimal and the instant benefits utterly priceless.

Then while you wait for it to arrive in the mail, here’s your assignment.

It’s time to sit down with each of your children, individual is best, and make a list of all the things you feel you’ve done wrong by them and ask them to do the same. Ask them to write down anything they feel they might have been in the wrong as far as what they said about you, to you or an action they took that contradicted your words. There may be resistance and that’s fine. Allow it to be what it is.

If you raised your voice, cursed at them, shouted for no reason, didn’t make time or just plain walked away instead of dealing with the issues at hand, put it on paper.

Both of you sit there and write for no less than five minutes. Then on it and pray on it if that works for you. If you can’t get your child to sit with you because the respect is so far gone, then you do this exercise yourself, then approach your child with the next step.

Then I want you to pick one thing, just one thing on this list that might be 10, 15, 25 items long or more. Pick one item, look at your child and ask for forgiveness for what you did.

State exactly what you did. Don’t sugar coat it. Get real and if emotions come, don’t fight them back. Let it out and allow healing to happen here.

You might get nothing. You might get a whole lot from your child. Have no expectations. Have no fears. Simply step into open communication with your child today.

Allow them to do the same with their list…when ready.

When you get Grooming the Next Generation in the mail, open it immediately and push play on the DVD – as a family.

Sure, you can watch it through first or you can just bite the bullet and get the entire family in on “movie night” and start to see some immediate change happen.

Now, this is a program I highly recommend. Take the meat, what applies to you and as that wise woman I mentioned earlier likes to say, spit out the bones.

If you need encouragement on your homework assignment, post below and you’ll receive it right here. 

Dear Disrespected & Dishonored, it’s never too late to set things right. Don’t wait. Do this today. For you, for your children, for their future.